In this video, Matthew Hussey talks to a listener about the man she is dating and why she has been unable to get a commitment out of him so far. When you do not maintain your standards and demand respect you are essentially pushing guys away, whether there is attraction there or not. How can you recognize your own issues and make changes?
You are treated the way you let people treat you
People will take advantage of your kindness and accommodating nature if you let them. Whether it is your friendships or your romantic relationships if you don’t voice your needs or expectations, they will not be met. If you’re seeing a guy and you let him call you for dates last minute and you don’t set any expectations for him, he will continue to treat you with this lack of respect.
You are more attracted to someone you respect
Think about the type of person you are attracted to. Is it someone with standards or someone who bends over backward to please your every whim? Most people are attracted to someone with standards and we push away the people that bend over backward for us. This is why when you go out of your way to please a man because you fear losing him, you are actually pushing him away.
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The first way to change this is emotionally. Change the associations and the entire way you see yourself. The other way to change it is the logical way. You like people that uphold their standards and are repelled by people who do not. Knowing this should remove any fear you have of not upholding your own standards. If you are dating a guy and you know he is attracted to you, imagine how much deeper the attraction will go if you can also earn his respect. You wouldn’t be attracted to someone you didn’t respect so don’t be afraid to demand respect from the men you are dating.
Bending over backward to please a man is only going to push him away.
If you are letting him walk all over you thinking he will be more attracted to you, it’s time to make some changes. Demand his respect and he will be more deeply attracted to you and you will get the proper treatment you deserve. It’s easy to do when you remind yourself that you are looking for a man with standards that you can respect, and a man is looking for the same thing in a woman.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew Hussey, visit his website www.howtogettheguy.com.