In this video Matthew Hussey talks about why being a strong woman does not mean you have to be ‘ultra independent.’ Men want to be needed. Furthermore, it’s okay to let yourself need someone.
Three Types of Women
There are three types of women. One is the ‘princess.’ This type of woman is prissy and needs everything done for her. She is not fun to be around. One rung above her is the ‘ultra independent’ woman who doesn’t need anything done for her ever. She also sucks because no one wants to be with someone who doesn’t need them. The top kind of woman really understands that while she can, of course, do everything because she is a strong independent woman, it’s also a lot of fun to let someone else do it for her. Entrepreneurs and business people have to hire help in order to grow their business. It is the same in your romantic life. It is okay to need someone.
Give Value, Not Take Value
Other people in your life are what make you happy, even if you are a strong independent person. If you go out to have fun, you usually need other people to really enjoy yourself. Learn to be approachable and attractive to others. Make eye contact and maintain an inviting facial expression. Think about something enjoyable or that excites you to create the right frame of mind.
Be tactile. You should touch someone within the first thirty seconds of meeting them. Give compliments to a man if you admire something about him. Your goal should be to give value, not to take value. If you make this your goal you will be just fine.
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Needing someone does not mean you are helpless without them
Recognize that other people in our lives make us happy. Allowing yourself to need someone does not mean that you are helpless. While you may be fine without a man in your life, the goal of life is not to be fine. It’s to really enjoy your life. Giving up some of the control can help you do this.
There is nothing wrong with being a strong, independent woman. However, you can be this without being the type to not let anyone do anything for her ever. Just as the most powerful CEO of a company has to hire help, so can you let a man in your life do things for you. Let yourself be a warm and inviting person. Bring more charisma to your personality. Bring value to all your interactions and understand that it is okay to need someone.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew Hussey, visit his website www.howtogettheguy.com.