There is a certain type of guy who will never take you out but only wants to text. In this video Matthew Hussey tells you why guys may do this and what you should do if it is happening to you.
Why Guys Only Text
It is a very common pattern for a guy to only text when he just needs the attention. Oftentimes there is someone else in his life but he uses you as a lifeline so that when he needs attention or to feel desired he can reach out. It can be difficult and frustrating if you would really like to go out and connect with someone but all you are getting are texts. However, it is a very common thing for people to do when they aren’t looking for a relationship with you but they do want someone they can reach out to when they need to feel a connection.
Make Him Chase You
When you receive these texts from people you probably have the tendency to think this person really does like you and get excited about him. Then he won’t see you and you’re let down. Don’t play his game. You need to stop complacently texting him back and being the girl he falls back on and get him to start chasing you.
3 Strategies to Get Him to Step Up His Game
1. The first text is a complimentary text.
It can help you get him on the phone. Say you miss his voice or you haven’t heard is sexy voice in ages. This makes him want to call you and opens up the lines of flirting and communication.
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2. The second text is a little less nice.
When he texts you out of nowhere and you’re a little frustrated with him you can call him out. Say “I’ve noticed something about you. . . you LOOOOVE texting.” You could even tell him you’re beginning to wonder if he’s even a real person and that you’re starting to feel like you’re communicating with a robot. Either he’ll step up his game and call you more because no one wants to be accused of being a robot or you’ll know it’s time to move on.
3. The third thing you can do is get proactive and invite him somewhere.
Suggest he comes along with you and your friends and say “you’d love it.” This lets him know it’s about him and that you think he’d enjoy himself. If he gives you his normal text response getting out of it because he’s working or whatever else your response should be “YAWWWWN.” Elongate the word. He’ll say “let’s get together next weekend” and you can either ignore or say a brief ok. Show him you’re bored and uninterested. Be proactive but draw back afterward. Again, he will realize he needs to step up his game.
A chronic texter that won’t commit to spending actual time with you can be frustrating.
However, he is just going to keep doing it as long as you let him get away with it. Employing a few simple strategies will show him you’re interested in more and get him to step up his game and start chasing you. You can be complimentary, you can express extreme boredom with his texts or you can be proactive yourself and if he doesn’t bite than withdraw from him in boredom. He will realize if he wants to keep you around he is going to have to do more than just text.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.
To know more about Matthew Hussey, visit his website www.howtogettheguy.com.